Dear Tash: Gratitude Outranks Control

Dear Tash,

Sometimes something happens to make you feel a little out of control.

You can’t stop a friend from making a disappointing decision in spite of your sage advice.

You don’t have the physical energy to convert your home from chaos to clean.

You are stood up for a much-anticipated hangout and busy calendars make it hard to reschedule.

A loss of control & feelings of rejection blend together into a formidable gratitude-snatching boogeyman. The best thing you can do in this moment is to uninvite your feelings of anger and entitlement, and quickly recover your gratitude. Search for it until you find it, hold it close like a stuffed animal, and lock all the doors. Gratitude will keep you safe from dark and hopeless attitudes, and it will reorient your faith into Christ instead of outcomes. 

The truth is, you never really have control anyway so why buy stock in the illusion? Peace comes from trusting that in all things, contentment is possible and most desirable. As Jesus said to Julian of Norwich in a vision 700 years ago, ‘It was necessary that there should be sin; but all shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well.’




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